What Drives You, Comparison or Compassion?

I’ve been thinking a lot about comparisons lately, specifically how we humans tend to always be comparing ourselves to others - either to lift ourself up by looking down on someone else, or by putting ourself down by looking at others we think are doing better than we are.

We live in a culture that often glorifies success and achievement, and it can be easy to fall into the trap of believing that we have to be extraordinary in order to be happy or fulfilled. I call BS on that toxic non-sense! Comparisons cause more pain that they do help us with anything.

One of the keys to embracing the ordinary and being okay with just being okay is to focus on compassion instead of comparison. Self-compassion is the practice of being kind and understanding towards ourselves, especially during difficult times or when we make mistakes. It involves acknowledging that we are human and that it's normal to have imperfections and experience suffering. When you are able to have self-compassion, then you can extend that compassion to others who may be struggling more than we realize.

By being compassionate, we can learn to be more understanding and forgiving towards ourselves and others, which can help us to feel more at peace and content with our lives. It's important to remember that self-compassion is not the same as self-indulgence or self-pity. It's about being kind and understanding, rather than beating ourselves (or others) up.

I truly believe that if we can move away from comparison and lean into compassion and small, random acts of kindness, we would all be much happier and fulfilled!

Click here to listen to a 10 min Guided Self Compassion Meditation

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